Heart to heart contact: Healing relationships
Because communication may not have depth, but relationships do. Now, regardless of your answer, think about whether this relationship you have established touches you from the inside, from your heart. Were you perfect when this relationship, this bond, developed? Didn't you have problems in life?
Recently, a belief has developed that for "Healthy", "Sustainable", "Permanent" relationships, both parties must be securely attached and must have solved most of their internal and external problems. Along with this belief, most individuals have the perception that if both parties have no problems or are "perfect", they can develop and sustain a relationship. However, when we look at the reality that no one is perfect, just like life, we can see that these beliefs and perceptions are a kind of escape, defense and consolation strategy.
We all have certain beliefs about ourselves and the world. These beliefs can be conscious or unconscious, but they often play a major role in shaping our lives without us realizing it. An individual can usually easily see in the other party what they know and believe in themselves. However, when they see in the other party a reality that they are unwilling to accept and deny, they can knowingly or unknowingly sabotage the relationship.
In other words, we can say that when an individual sees a characteristic in another person that he does not want to change or transform in himself, he wants to escape from that relationship and moves away from that relationship. So, how is it possible to heal in a relationship instead of running away?
Relationships are a kind of partnership. A relationship can contain common dreams and troubles. Individuals; accompany each other's lives in a relationship, become friends. Therefore, in difficult times, individuals should turn their arrows to the relationship rather than pointing them at themselves or the other party, and try to understand the relationship and those who caused the difficult issue, which helps both the relationship develop and both parties to heal by taking responsibility. As individuals take responsibility and see their development; their self-confidence and self-esteem also increase. This increase is also reflected in the individual's thoughts, feelings and behaviors. In this way, the individual can show the courage to hold the other party's hand as well as their own.
Courage in relationships can be said to be the courage of an individual to look at themselves and improve. The more sincere and real an individual can be towards themselves, the more sincere and real they can be towards the other party. They do not feel the need to play a role. They can exist with good or bad and be open to development.
There are happy days and difficult days in life. However, when both times are shared, they gain a different meaning. We are all human and it is natural for us to want support and need someone's love. What is important: Our courage to look at ourselves. If you are having difficulty at this point and need support, getting support from an expert who you will feel safe with at first can be effective for your relationship with yourself and your future relationships.
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